Agree with the dog thing too. But first let me further release some externalised frustration about the surgeon merry-go-around:
AAAAAARRRRRRGGGGHHH
And continue: completely respect that Summer is still too large a grief to go forward with committing to another dog. Fostering is a lovely idea (caveat: with underlying medical issues, definitely go with a mainstream charity or organisation who can thoroughly and independently vouch for medical histories. Most smaller ones say that they can but they really don’t. Bit of a depressing story but can tell you about the experience I’ve had). Charities for assistance dogs of all kinds often need puppy fosters, if you can handle an adorable puppy 😉 It’s happening less often now but show dogs are sometimes retired out to loving homes. If you’re ever interested in a particular breed, let me know as I can ask around.
Thank you! I'm not sure we're there yet but something to consider in the future for sure. Sorry to hear it was a challenge for you and yeah, have heard similar about the medical issues
Do the dog thing. They’ll never be Summer, but they do bring cuddles. And an external focus.
I am in talking therapy and having switched once from one who felt ‘it was a shame I hadn’t had therapy before’, to one who pointed out that I am talking about trauma with easy, relaxed confidence and maybe i should let myself cry at the surgeons/secretaries/Ash as that might move things along. And I did. And it has. Mostly because Ash started trying to contact surgeons on my behalf and also found the process to be incredibly frustrating and he quickly switched his approach to throwing money at the problem and going fully private. Mine lends itself to private, while yours does not. But having Ash take the load for a while of contacting and chasing was a huge help, and took a weight off me.
I do love a dog cuddle. Discovered our neighbours have St Bernard PUPPIES. Five months old and just the sweetest boys.
I think I have similar reactions. I'm so used to being in trauma that more of it is just, well more of it. I can't cry at anyone because I can't speak or get hold of anyone!! So glad you're getting it sorted though. If I could chuck money at this, I would, without a doubt. But hey ho, at least I'm not American...
Agree with the dog thing too. But first let me further release some externalised frustration about the surgeon merry-go-around:
AAAAAARRRRRRGGGGHHH
And continue: completely respect that Summer is still too large a grief to go forward with committing to another dog. Fostering is a lovely idea (caveat: with underlying medical issues, definitely go with a mainstream charity or organisation who can thoroughly and independently vouch for medical histories. Most smaller ones say that they can but they really don’t. Bit of a depressing story but can tell you about the experience I’ve had). Charities for assistance dogs of all kinds often need puppy fosters, if you can handle an adorable puppy 😉 It’s happening less often now but show dogs are sometimes retired out to loving homes. If you’re ever interested in a particular breed, let me know as I can ask around.
Thank you! I'm not sure we're there yet but something to consider in the future for sure. Sorry to hear it was a challenge for you and yeah, have heard similar about the medical issues
Do the dog thing. They’ll never be Summer, but they do bring cuddles. And an external focus.
I am in talking therapy and having switched once from one who felt ‘it was a shame I hadn’t had therapy before’, to one who pointed out that I am talking about trauma with easy, relaxed confidence and maybe i should let myself cry at the surgeons/secretaries/Ash as that might move things along. And I did. And it has. Mostly because Ash started trying to contact surgeons on my behalf and also found the process to be incredibly frustrating and he quickly switched his approach to throwing money at the problem and going fully private. Mine lends itself to private, while yours does not. But having Ash take the load for a while of contacting and chasing was a huge help, and took a weight off me.
I do love a dog cuddle. Discovered our neighbours have St Bernard PUPPIES. Five months old and just the sweetest boys.
I think I have similar reactions. I'm so used to being in trauma that more of it is just, well more of it. I can't cry at anyone because I can't speak or get hold of anyone!! So glad you're getting it sorted though. If I could chuck money at this, I would, without a doubt. But hey ho, at least I'm not American...